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Tune Up Your Relationships

tune-up-your-relationships_300Given the ever growing demands of our daily lives, it becomes very easy to overlook the “care and feeding” of our intimate, family and long-term relationships. Relationships have been shown to have a significant impact on our health, happiness and longevity; taking care of them and keeping up on their maintenance are essential.

Taking the time to have a “tune-up” for your important relationships is worth the effort. Here are some simple but important interpersonal behaviors that will help tune up your relationships and add to the fulfillment and satisfaction you desire from them:

Conflict resolution: Conflict in relationships is inevitable, but the ways we handle and respond to it are not. Some of us try to avoid dealing with conflict, while others want to immediately resolve things head-on.

Instead of trying to avoid conflict, it can be constructive to objectively write down our thoughts and feelings. We can share them with the other person in a way that expresses how we feel and in a style that makes us comfortable, possibly in a letter, greeting card or email.

For those of us who tackle conflict head-on, it can be helpful to take a step back and discern if this issue is something that must be resolved immediately or whether  we can give ourselves time to process what has occurred, allowing us to see the conflict from the other person’s perspective.

Respecting the others person’s experience of the conflict: Respecting your partner’s or friend’s experience of a particular conflict doesn’t mean you “go along to get along” or that you should not express your own experience or feelings about it. It does mean that you respect and consider the other individual’s unique experience of what has occurred and that he wants to be seen, heard and valued just as much as you do.

By being open to accepting what the other person is feeling and what he has experienced, you send the message that you sincerely care about his feelings. And, while you may not agree with those feelings, you bring integrity to the relationship that allows the other person to be who he is and express feelings in a safe and non-hostile environment.

Learn New Communication Skills

Lack of effective communication is a leading cause of divorce and the breakdown of relationships between parents and children, as well as between employers and employees. There is no doubt that communication in all types of relationships can make or break them, but changing how we relate to one another is easier said than done. This difficulty stems from inherited or past communication patterns that can quickly lead to hurt feelings or emotional disconnection.

What’s more, most people don’t have the knowledge, skills or the time to invest in changing how they behave. Learn new skills to enhance your relationships and watch them flourish! For a free download on how to improve your communication skills visit www.changingbehavior.org.

Would You Rather Be Right Or Be Loved?

An important question to ask when we dealing with conflict in a significant relationship is: Would you rather be right or be loved? This simple litmus test can help reveal a balance and a win-win situation for both the parties in a conflict. It also allows us to reflect on what is important in both our life and in our relationships.

Filed Under: Alternative MedicineEasy Health Digest™General Health

About the Author: Georgianna Donadio is one of only six American Florence Nightingale Scholars, an award-winning nurse advocate, integrative healthcare provider, and behavioral health expert. She blogs for the Huffington Post and Dr. Oz's Teen Daily Strength, and is the author of the bestselling, #1 top rated Amazon Kindle book Changing Behavior: Immediately Transform Your Relationships with Easy to Learn, Proven Communication Skills: Winner of the 2012 Indie Book Award and awarded 5 stars from ForeWord Clarion. She's also the Program Director for the National Institute of Whole Health. For 20 years, until recently retiring from television, Georgianna hosted a nationally syndicated television program, Woman to Woman® that explored all topics of interest to women, with a special focus on relationships. Her radio program, “Changing Behavior,” can be heard on All Positive Radio at healthylife.net. Contact her at www.changingbehavior.org where you can download a free book excerpt.

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  • Irfan

    “most people don’t have the knowledge, skills or the time to invest in changing how they behave”. Critically, there has to be the desire to ‘adopt’ change. With some, the impediment
    to changing at least some aspect of behaviour is the absence of the slightest acceptance of fallibility regarding oneself, thereby even reflecting on one’s actions is incomprehensible. Needless to say, it is a recipe for destruction of the relationship UNLESS intervention is successful. However, in such cases intervention too is derided and scoffed at by the ‘infallible’.

  • Steve Baze

    In todays society, we have few of the correct boundaries to live by . This complicates realtionships tremendously as near anything and any behaviuors are acceptable or at least not admonished , like lying and cheating on spouses etc? The list would be a long one . Our own government has complicated these outcomes by trying to legislate morals and behaviours that simply don’t fly in reality and almost always make bad matter worse. Few people have the courage to simply live within their own honesty and boundaries and go along with whatever they are told or what seems to be popularly accepted as the norm at the time . Sad but true and here we are in a nightmare seeking solice from the very people that inflict social chaos upon us . Any wonder Amerikans are so screwed up in their relationships and elsewhere ? Not really ……as we become wards of the state our problems increase exponentially , not just economically but as a society and as individuals . Bottom line, we live in many ILLUSIONS !