10 sex drive killers for men

While you may be interested in finding out how to improve your libido, it is just as important to be aware of conditions and factors that can wreak havoc on your sex life. Some of these factors are health-related, but there are several other issues in your life that can kill your sex drive.

If you have been experiencing any kind of sexual problems in your relationship such as erectile dysfunction (ED) or lack of interest in sex, consider whether some of the following causes could be to blame. Improving these problems could help clear the way to better and more frequent sex.

1. Unmanaged stress

Stress is a psychological deterrent to healthy erectile function. Stress can zap your testosterone production as well. Even if you cannot control the stress in your life, you can learn how to manage it. Look into stress management techniques (such as yoga, exercise, breathing exercises or meditation) to handle work, home, money, and relationship stress. Seek counseling if you need it.

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2. Low T

Testosterone (T) is a hormone that is responsible for your sex drive. Several factors can affect your testosterone levels such as aging, lack of sleep, obesity, excessive drinking, stress, or other reasons. Look to the best natural treatments for low testosterone to boost your own production of this important hormone as well as natural supplements that help boost natural testosterone levels.

3. Excessive alcohol

An occasional drink does lower inhibitions and makes people interested in sex, but too much alcohol or regular heavy drinking can kill your sex drive and can turn off your partner. Drinking too much can lead to low T. Try cutting back on drinking, and seek help if you think you have a drinking problem.

4. The honeymoon is over

If you are having problems with your partner or are suffering a lack of closeness, that is very likely to affect your sex drive and can even make you feel indifferent about sex. Experiencing tension from fights, miscommunication, or having trust issues can make you lose that loving feeling. Work on your relationship by communicating with your partner, and look into counseling to help regain your passion for each other.

5. Not getting enough sleep

Sleep problems can cause sexual problems. Fatigue saps energy, testosterone, and interest in sex. Pulling late nights and having a condition such as sleep apnea can keep you from sleeping deeply enough. There are a number of ways to help men sleep better at night from following a consistent schedule to getting all electronic devices out of the bedroom. And what do you know, having sex before bed can help you sleep better. Getting more sleep can help your libido and testosterone production, which can lead to more frequent sex. It is a great cycle to get on.  If you are having trouble sleeping at night due to frequent urination, you may need to try a prostate supplement.

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6. Depression

About 10 percent to 20 percent of ED cases are due to psychological causes like depression and anxiety. Depression and ED can become a vicious cycle of low libido. If a man experiences ED, he may become stressed and depressed, making him less inclined to pursue sexual activity out of fear of failure to achieve an erection. Certain medications, including antidepressants, can lower libido.

7. Medication

There are some drugs that cause low libido. If you take antidepressants, blood pressure meds, drugs for BPH (enlarged prostate), chemotherapy, or drugs for HIV, these drugs can cause low libido and in some cases ED. Talk to your doctor if you experience any sexual side effects from your medications. He or she may be able to switch your medication or change your dose.

8. Having kids in the house

Kids are one of the 10 sex drive killers because they create a barrier to sex. Sometimes they wiggle their way right between you and your partner in bed. Kids take up a lot of time and affection that could be spent on your partner. If you finally find a moment to be alone with your partner, it is frustrating to get interrupted. Try stealing some time while the kids are watching a movie or schedule some date nights and send the kids to a friend’s house for the night so you don’t deal with any frustrating unplanned coitus interruptus. This can also help reduce stress and help you reconnect with your partner, knocking a couple of other sex-drive killers off this list.

9. Poor self-image

It is hard to feel sexy if you feel fat or unattractive. Accept your body. Do things to boost your self-confidence such as exercise or find an outfit that looks good on you. Confidence is sexy. If your partner is the one feeling unattractive, offer reassurance.

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10. Obesity

Obesity can affect your sexual desire in several ways. Size can be a barrier to performing the way you want to, it can affect your stamina, and carrying excess weight can affect your self-esteem. Excess body fat can bring down your testosterone level and create problems with erectile dysfunction. There are many good reasons to change your diet and get more exercise, but perhaps a better sex life is what can motivate you. You may need to talk to someone about how you feel about yourself and work on your self-image if that is what’s bringing you down.

If you have tackled the 10 items on this list and have followed guidelines for boosting testosterone but still aren’t rising to occasion, talk to your doctor. He or she can help you to take steps to diagnose what is causing your low libido and explore further treatment options so you can regain a satisfying sex life.

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Craig Cooper

By Craig Cooper

Craig Cooper is a serial entrepreneur, venture capitalist, author, and TV host of CNBC's "Adventure Capitalists". He is an “Ambassador” for both the global men’s health foundation “Movember” and 2XU, the performance sportswear company. He is the author of the Harper Collins book “Your New Prime: 30 Days to Better Sex, Eternal Strength, and a Kick-Ass Life After 40“. Follow Craig on Instagram @craigcooperrrr and Facebook.