Holding In Your Feelings Can Lead To Serious Illness


The way we feel — especially when we feel hurt or angry — can cause negative effects on the body because of the neurological and neurochemical connections between mind and body. If we experience internalized anger, our nervous and hormone systems react, creating neurotransmitter chemicals that can result in harmful side effects. Those can lead to compromised health as well as compromised personal and professional relationships.

Anger that is felt over a period of time is unhealthy. When we become angry and do not express it in a productive manner, the body reacts through the stress adaptation response, leading to biochemical physical responses that can lead to illness or death. If we are habitually angry, the conditions that can occur as a result of this physical response to the chronic or ongoing anger include:

  • Elevated blood pressure
  • Increased heart rate
  • Tense muscles
  • Heart attack
  • Hiatus hernia
  • Glaucoma
  • Stroke
  • Hives
  • Asthma
  • Ulcers
  • Migraines
  • Low back pain
  • Psoriasis
  • Shortened life expectancy

Anger Issues

In addition to thousands of anger and stress studies, many other health studies have connected anger to loneliness, chronic anxiety, depression, eating disorders, sleep disorders, obsessive-compulsive behavior and phobias. It can also have a detrimental effect on our relationships and threaten the development and maintenance of intimate relationships. Communication is the key to learning how to handle our anger and creating healthy and fulfilling relationships.

Learning how to communication does not have to be complicated. While most of us have developed communication skills from our families and environment, there are easy-to-learn, proven skills that can provide you with the tools and knowledge you need to be able to channel and express your anger or hurt feelings appropriately.

When we are able to express our feelings (be they sadness, frustration or anger), we feel more in control of our lives. We are able to create the type of relationships we want with others.

Current research has clearly shown that it is healthier to express and resolve our relationship issues than it is to hold them in and allow them either to make us ill or to cause conflicts at work, home or with friends and colleagues.

As a researcher, I have participated in many years of research into a model of communication that has been proven to work in all types of environments with all types of relationships. You can read more about it and download a free chapter or excerpt from the book on this subject at www.changingbehavior.org. You can also get the book for free if you are a Kindle Prime member by typing in Changing Behavior: Immediately Transform Your Relationships with Easy to Learn, Proven Communication Skills.

Georgianna Donadio

By Georgianna Donadio

is one of only six American Florence Nightingale Scholars, an award-winning nurse advocate, integrative healthcare provider, and behavioral health expert. She blogs for the Huffington Post and Dr. Oz's Teen Daily Strength, and is the author of the bestselling, #1 top rated Amazon Kindle book Changing Behavior: Immediately Transform Your Relationships with Easy to Learn, Proven Communication Skills: Winner of the 2012 Indie Book Award and awarded 5 stars from ForeWord Clarion. She's also the Program Director for the National Institute of Whole Health. For 20 years, until recently retiring from television, Georgianna hosted a nationally syndicated television program, Woman to Woman® that explored all topics of interest to women, with a special focus on relationships. Her radio program, “Changing Behavior,” can be heard on All Positive Radio at healthylife.net. Contact her at www.changingbehavior.org where you can download a free book excerpt.