The easiest way to keep your emotions in check, decrease depression and get happy

Coming out of a year where every day was a challenge, it’s difficult to imagine how 2021 could be any different. But for our health’s sake, it’s crucial to find a way to keep our emotions in check, decrease depression and get happier. 40 years of research says helping others could do the trick…

A new year brings opportunities, and setting goals or resolutions is a common practice.

But as Richard Ryan, Professor Emeritus of psychology and clinical psychologist at the University of Rochester points out, “The evidence shows that most of the time people aren’t successful at them.”

He adds, however, that any occasion that gives us an opportunity to reflect on our lives is ultimately a good thing — and it doesn’t just have to be on New Year’s.

“Whenever that happens, if it’s really a reflective change — something that you put your heart behind — that can be good for people.”

So, take a moment and reflect on what became significant to you during the pandemic. Was it taking better care of your health and loved ones? And what does that mean for your happiness going forward?

Resolve to help others to help yourself

What are some goals you can set for yourself for the upcoming year?

Ryan offers helpful advice by suggesting that we think about making useful contributions to those around us. In fact, what proves most satisfying are goals that include others.

“Think of how you can help,” he says. “There’s a lot of distress out there: If we can set goals that aim to help others, those kinds of goals will, in turn, also add to our own well-being.”

That could be something as simple as donating to a local food pantry or anything that you put your heart behind to benefit others.

And that cheerful “warm glow” you experience when you help someone? It’s good for you. Practicing pro-social behavior helps us regulate our own emotions, decreases symptoms of depression and makes people happier.

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This advice is grounded in decades of research, by the way…

Ryan and his partner Edward Deci, University of Rochester Professor Emeritus of psychology, developed the “self-determination theory” (SDT) over 40 years. This theory has become one of the most widely accepted frameworks of human motivation in contemporary behavioral science. It confirms a strong correlation between the well-being, health, and longevity of humans who are emotionally and behaviorally compassionate.

The acts of willingly helping others, satisfy all three of the basic psychological needs identified in SDT research, such as autonomy, competence and relatedness. For example, autonomy in this context means you can select activities that are the most meaningful. Competence means having a sense of effectiveness and gratification from donating to a good cause. Finally, relatedness is the connection with others — something we could all need more of right now.

Help others to help yourself

Here are a few ways you can start helping others and help yourself in the process:

  1. Volunteer your time. In every community, many groups and organizations need people to help keep that program running.
  2. Pay it forward. You can pay it forward, such as paying for someone’s coffee in Starbucks or someone’s bill at a restaurant, without asking anything in return.
  3. Help a friend in need. There are countless ways to help our friends, such as giving a friend a ride, watering their plants, or walking their dog when they are sick.

The ways we can help others are limitless, so start shifting your mindset in 2021 to helping others and see how it helps you get ahead in a powerful way.

Sources:

How to be happier in 2021 — Science Daily

In helping others, you help yourself — Psychology Today

Tracey G. Ingram, AuD

By Tracey G. Ingram, AuD

Tracey G. Ingram is a former Occupational Therapist, and presently a writer and Doctor of Audiology with more than 20 years of experience. She enjoys living a healthy lifestyle and feels health is a complete state of physical, mental and social wellbeing. She practices intermittent fasting, Pilates, yoga, hiking and daily meditation. She loves to share her experiences with nutrition, supplements and eating organic foods to help others improve their health.